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I once got into a passionate discussion with some of my closest friends on the subject of wearing white after Labor Day and the particular pet peeve of wearing white shoes in general. So this post is dedicated to some of my closest friends, The Crew.

I can think of no person on this planet that hates, I mean absolutely loathes white shoes more than my good friend Horasetta. There’s no question in my mind that when Horasetta hears someone mention white shoes, the below image is what immediately comes to mind.

Martin Jerome white shoes

If you’re a child of the 90’s, you’re familiar with the show Martin and one of the shows popular characters, Jerome.  In the unlikely event that you’re not, let me give you the run down. Jerome, a character played by Martin Lawrence, was the self-proclaimed “Playa from the Himalayas” and the absolute epitome of all that is tacky.  From ill-fitting track suits to pastel, leather coordinates worn with clashing cowboy boots, it’s safe to say if Jerome was wearing it, you should have to good sense not to…but guess what! Jerome and I have something in common. We love our white shoes. I mean look at ‘em. Look at the white shoes. Look at my white shoes.

Martin look at the white shoes labor day

My friend Bo say’s the only time she’s ever worn or will ever wear white shoes was on her wedding day. Say it ain’t so Bo. I’m not sure why white shoes continue to get the bad rap.  I think the right shoe can be ever so chic.  Really, who’s to blame for the notion that a color can look good on one body part but not another?  I can wear a white blouse – Gorgeous. I can carry a white purse – Cool. Rock a white bracelet – Cute. White headband, white scarf? What’s that? All of that’s okay? Wait a minute but… gasp and clutch pearls if you dare to wear white pants or God forbid, white shoes. So… I’m confused.  Maybe you can help clarify this for me by completing this sentence. White shoes are tacky because _____.

While you’re working on that, what about this rule about not wearing white after Labor Day? Not one fashionista can tell you who started it or exactly why. All we know is that it’s a rule we follow. Well, not me but certainly many. First off, rules are made to be broken. Your style should be just that, your style. My style is light, bright, feminine and chic. I love bold colors and lively looks. This is probably why I just didn’t fit in fashion-wise in New York.  Who’s going to tell me not to wear cobalt blue because it’s August? Not a damn soul that’s who.

The Crew sent me this link because I’d never seen this movie. LOL I can’t stand them for this. I agree with the lawyer and the poor lady getting the snot pummeled out of her with the phone. 1. Beverly Sutphin is insane (don't take fashion advice from cuckoo birds. 2. Fashion has changed.

Some of my fashion faves breaking the rules in white shoes Serial Mom be damned.  (Jessica Alba, Victoria Becham, Miranda Kerr, Solange Knowles, Karolina Kurkova and the incomparable Sarah Jessica Parker)
Some of my fashion faves breaking the rules in white shoes, Serial Mom be damned. (Jessica Alba, Victoria Beckham, Miranda Kerr, Solange Knowles, Karolina Kurkova and the incomparable Sarah Jessica Parker)

I get it. White tends to give off a look of leisure. Wearing white is a great way to help stay cool in the summer.  Resort collections make heavy use of the white linen look and Buffy Von-Something is always wearing her finest white culottes at the country club so then the formula in our heads becomes White = Summer.  Got ‘cha but here’s the thing.  I look good in white (flips hair).  I wear white year-round and couldn’t give two farts whose nose it wrinkles.

Angelina Jolie, Nicole Richie, Jennifer Lopez, and Kerry Washington look stunning in all white.
Angelina Jolie, Nicole Richie, Jennifer Lopez, and Kerry Washington all look stunning in all white.

Though even I’ll admit white linens may be a stretch in the dead of winter in metropolises like New York or DC but I live in Miami. If the lady walking in front of me is wearing bedazzled booty shorts in January, I can wear my white jeans and if I should so happen to want to pair said white jeans with some white shoes (Horasetta cover your eyes girl), that’s what I’m going to do.

If you love your white and your bright colors like I do but are worried about “the rule”, I say ask yourself the following: Is it designed well? Does it fit you well? Do you look good in it? Do you feel good in it? Yes? Well, wear that s%&* like Jerome, the Mayor of Debonair would, with confidence.

“Ou ou, I say ou ou ou, I say Jerome’s in house. I say Jerome’s in the ha-ou ha-ou, watch ya mouth.”


I was never naturally the brightest of students. Then I went to theatre college and I was never the most talented. I have always had to work. Nothing has ever just landed on my lap.”

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So I love Victoria Beckham’s style. She is perfection when it comes to owning the chic yet fierce looks. In a day and age where the more skin you flaunt means the sexier you are, her classic elegance is rather refreshing. How can someone so well put together make it look so effortless?  There’s no doubt that she’s a fashion icon but this wasn’t always the case.

There’s a great article on the one and only Posh Spice in Business of Fashion that provides an interesting look into her struggle to be taken seriously in the fashion industry. Now I love a good struggle story. We get so caught up in our own plights sometimes that we forget most success stories don’t start out as success stories. Some start out as epic fail stories. In Beckham’s case her success story led to a fail story that eventually led to another success story.  It’s a great read and a great inspiration for career oriented woman everywhere.  Click the link to read the full article. Victoria Beckham, Fashion Transformer

As most of you know, I’m a Sheryl Sandberg fan and have reviewed her book, Lean In on the blog. So when it was announced yesterday that Sandberg had launched a campaign to deter the use of the word “bossy” as it pertains to young girls, I was already on board without knowing much about the new initiative.  I didn’t need to hear that Beyonce, Diane von Furstenberg, Condoleezza Rice or Jane Lynch were involved (although that lineup is kinda friggin awesome). I was just excited to learn more about it.

Having read the book, I know exactly where Sandberg is going with this. It all stems back to equality in the work place for women, and what better place to start then by being mindful of the things we say to young girls so that we’re not stifling their possible growth into future leaders? It isn’t just about the word “bossy”. It’s about all the things that are said to young girls that give them the impression that it’s not okay to be ambitious or that it's not okay to want to be leaders. It's about all the things that tell them it’s more important to be liked than to embrace a natural inclination to be a great leader.

Okay, so the title of the campaign “Ban Bossy” weighs a little heavy on the cheesy scale.  I’m sure the copywriter who thought of it was focused on the alliteration, so pleased with how it sounded rolling off the tongue that the cheese factor didn’t quite register with him or her but is that reason enough for all of the negative backlash? I don’t know. A contributor for Forbes blasts Sandberg, essentially telling her to get her priorities straight because “There Are Far Worse Things Than Being Called Bossy”. Another site brands the initiative “The stupidest campaign ever”. While I don’t quite know about all that, I will give a little on the call to ban the word.  Ban is a hell of a strong word and like I just said it makes the whole thing sound super cheesy (yes, after consideration, I increased the cheese level from a little to super). However, I don’t think we should get caught up in word play. Let’ not let that detract from the intention of the campaign. Fact is, there’s a problem with inequality for women in this country and like Sheryl, we should be attempting to work at the root of the problem to try and resolve it. Rather than bashing a woman who’s trying to do something positive, why not take a deeper look at what she’s trying to accomplish here and try to encourage little girls with leadership skills to strive to be leaders they were born to be. Visit BanBossy.com for more info.

"Let's make power moves ladies."  Thanks for reading.


J. Daniel


Here’s a great piece on a few women we know that have been called bossy. Among them Anna Wintour, Michelle Obama, Supreme Court Justice Sonia Sotomayor, Former Secretary of State Madeleine Albright, Barbara Walters, and more.

16 Successful Women Who Were Once Called Bossy or Worse - Time