Ok… Don’t freak out. – Find the silver lining in stressful situations

Look at you. You're a mess. Get yourself together.
Look at you. You're a mess. Get yourself together.

Some people are worriers and are simply panic-prone by nature. Some people jump to the worst possible conclusion first and ask questions later (Hi mom). I'm pretty much the complete opposite. I'm a thinker so I tend to absorb information and take my time to process the situation before reacting. I'll get around to worst possible conclusions whenever I get to them. There are very few things that unnerve me but some things do come close. I recently received some unsettling news at work and like most of my colleagues I couldn't help but be upset. Although I didn't go into full-on panic, I definitely lost focus for the rest of the day and didn't quite make it fully back on track until I had some time to really sit down and think.

 Let our advance working become advance thinking and planning."

- Winston Churchill

I’m a visual thinker so when I’m thinking about too many things at once, all of these images are scrabbled in my head like some sort of moving collage. What I need to have, for my own sanity’s sake, is a view that is more like individual, static, vignettes that logically connect with one another. When I got some quality time alone to gather my thoughts I knew my end result would be neat and orderly and… I who am I kidding? I knew I would end up with a spreadsheet and that’s exactly what happened.

"Everybody has a plan until they get punched in the mouth."

– Mike Tyson

You may recall me writing about 2015 goals earlier this year. My year was neatly spelled out with clearly defined goals and objectives and the roadmap for achieving those goals was set firmly in place. What I know to be true is that sometimes plans get screwed up. Hell, plans get screwed up all the damn time. I’m logical. I know this, but still manage to be deeply annoyed when I can’t see out my plans exactly as I’ve envisioned them but I digress. Cut to my punch in the face. I grabbed a sheet of paper and began sketching out possible scenarios.

Expect the best, plan for the worst, and prepare to be surprised.

-       Denis Waitley

By the time I was done my thinking and sketching I had six different scenarios outlined of what could happen, color-coded, arranged by optimal outcome and documented by length of time in an Excel spreadsheet. I printed it out, stuck it up on my wall of productivity, looked at it and breathed a sigh of relief.  “I’m going to be alright.”  I was calm and all was right in the world.

The pessimist sees difficulty in every opportunity. The optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.

- Winston Churchill

Now, I’m not telling you to be as anal retentive as I am but this is just some food for thought.  Worrying never helps. Never. Well maybe… nah it never helps. It’s not productive and just makes you feel like crap. Do you want to feel like crap? Well then, don’t. The next time you’re met with a difficult situation and aren’t quite sure what you’re going to do or how it will play out, take a second to sit back and organize your thoughts. Come up with a plan (Or six. I don’t know). Knowing what your options are will make a world of difference in greatly helping to relieve that stress. “Nam-myoho-renge-kyo” flirty winky face emoji

Happy planning!


Thank you for reading. Now… “Let the power moves continue.”



J. Daniel

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